Things I've Learnt Since Becoming A Mum
If you’ve been following along my posts, you’ll know that my oldest son turned 6 last week. So this past week, I’ve just been trying to process that WOW, I’ve been a mum for SIX years – I still can’t believe it! And as I looked back at all the photos of my son – from when he was in my tummy, to a newborn baby, to a toddler, to now – there was a lot of reflecting on my journey as a mother these past 6 years, so I thought I’d share some of those things with you!
It’s amazing how much you can do while you’re sleep deprived, and it’s also amazing how long you can remain sleep deprived for!
It never gets easier per se; it just changes.
Just because something worked for one child, doesn’t mean it’ll work for the next! Sometimes it’s almost like you’re a first-time parent and learning everything from scratch again!
Motherhood can be really lonely, especially in the early years. You lose friends you had, you make new ones, but you don’t really have time to nurture the friendships you have.
Becoming a parent brings to light all these generational hurts and baggage that you never realised you had, and forces you to start dealing with them so you can start breaking the cycle.
You appreciate your own mum a lot more, and you start to understand that most of the time, they were just doing the best they can, in the way they knew. You also become really grateful that some of the decisions they made that were “the end of the world” for you at that time, actually protected you and saved you a lot of pain and regret.
You’ll lose yourself a lot, but each time you find yourself again, you’ll discover a whole new person, and it’s pretty amazing when you realise how much you’ve grown!
Having kids will really test and push the boundaries of your marriage/relationship. We’re honestly not surprised that it’s one of the things that can lead to divorce!
Your kids will completely drain everything you’ve got, but at the same time fill you up so full you’re overflowing.
No matter how bad things may seem to be, I would never change a thing – my kids are worth it all.
At the end of the day, motherhood is a learning journey that never ends, and I know that in another 6 years, I’ll have a lot more reflections and insights to add to this list! But for now, I’m just really grateful that I get to be on this journey, and I hope some of my reflections resonated with you!
